Existence, Consciousness, Bliss.

I have worked reallllly hard, with many ups and many periods of deep deep darkness to finally know how to stand in the light without being engulfed by darkness again.

There are two things to know about this process that are the foundation for all the work that goes into it:

1. That it is the same process as building a muscle.
2. That the light, the success -- comes from within -- and can come from nowhere else.

This is the Magic of Life. 

& The Magic is found in the mud: the anxiety, the depression, the loss, the pain, the abuse. 

The "find" is that the strength within is much much bigger than anything external. It is a strength that must be built by shedding the mud. The mud is shed through forgiveness, through acceptance, through building an unwavering belief in ourselves, in our own goodness, in our own worthiness, in our own unique qualities, ways of being, of functioning. Our every preference, those quirks that we have been teased about or worse, our every interest, failures, and imaginings; are a kind of treasure map with our lives-to-date being the sometimes seemingly pointless, unending torturous journey toward unearthing that treasure. 

Once you arrive you are awash with the feeling that it was all worth it. And often, you are compelled to help others on their journey -- although more often than not, others wish to go it alone and not be advised or aided. Such is the human condition. xo

I know this sounds crazy, and yet it has been true for me and countless others. I am not the first to find the Magic Formula.

But how about we don't make our children lose it in the first place. New models of parenting are built upon healing of our own childhood wounds rather than intellectual misunderstandings about life & parenthood. Seek them out and as you change the way you parent, you can heal your inner child, and change the world. It is incredibly amazing to discover how all of it, everything, is inter-connected. I know I know I sound stoned or demented. That's ok. If you are not at a point of feeling a need for healing then go forth happy as you are. If you do realize that your life challenges are a call to healing -- then you may find these ideas intriguing. 

In any and all cases -- it matters not what you do or don't do or where you end up -- your journey is your journey and cannot be compared or judged. And, in any and all cases -- you are worthy and lovable without condition. xo